The Book Review................

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This time i am going to write the book review and summary of the book i am currently reading "How to Win Friends & Influence people" by Dale carnegie. i have been highly influence by the book, i will try my level best to tell a brief about the book, if even i failed to leave a mark please read the book if u really want to change your social life and want to be liked by every person you meet or know. The book is written in way back in 1936 and is bestseller and the thing told in the book are still aplicable in todays era. The book is broadly divided into four parts the first two i am going to discuss in this post and the rest in the next one.

The first part deals with the fundamental techniques in handling people. It could be further divided ito further three parts

(a) Don't criticize, condemn or complain, let me explain a bit about it in my way. When ever a person do wrong we tend to get angry on him and tend to cricize the person that you did this thing wrong u dont know any thing etc without bothering what the other person might be thinking, wait for the moment and think how we feel when some body criticizes us and how bad we feel about the person denouncing us,this would be more clear from "Crticism is futile (pointless) because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify him self. Criticism is dangerous ecause it wounds a person's precious pride hurts his sense of importance and arouses resentment." Even Mr. Lincoln says " don't critcize others; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances". when dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. we are dealing withe creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with pride and vanity. Bitter criticism caused the sensitive thomas hardy one of the finest novelist s ever to enrich english to give up forever writing fiction. Any fool can criticize condemn and most of us do. but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving. we all must try figure out why the person is doing wrong. At last "god himself doesnot prpose to judge man until the end of his days."

(b)honest and sencere appreciation. we human have a great hunger for appreciation and if any body fulfill this hunger by sincere appreciation we enjoy doing that work or in other term if you appreciates somones effort the other person will feel happy and there is a great chance that he will do your work even, but at this juncture i would just like to clear one thing i am talking about real or true appereciation not the false one or flattering ok make a deserving appreciation in right context. to make this clear suppose u work hard on a project and after completion your teacher dont appreciate your work you will feel a bit down and if your teacher appreciate you you will fell more excited and will think of doing something more great now; got it how true appreciation can help to get best out of a person. Think when we are in party the women are always conscious about there look and dress and if you sincerely appreciate them about there cloths they would be delighted. see how important is appreciation and how we neglect this in our day today life so stop cricizing start appreciating.

(c) Arouse in the other person an eager want : " the only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what and show them how to get it ". If you want your work to be done by others easily than arouse in the other person an eager want means that that how your work is also important for him. For example if your going for job interview relate your answers fulfilling there needs or demand if you can do so there is greater probability of being selected. Just talk all the time what the other person want and how he could get it. " If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own". a business leader said " people who can put themselves in the place of other people, who can undestand the working of their minds need never worry about what the future has in store for them." so i feel u got what i want to convey to you. the rest of the part i will write in my next post as it is getting a bit lengthy. One thing which i got from the book is every human is delicate and so we should treat every person in an important way.

About my personal life last week i was busy in my internal exam . march is over april ready to come with this the last days of college life are own, i will try to make most of every moment so that in the end i have no regrets.bye and take care

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