Book Review Continues..........

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JUST continuing my post from where i left just summarising the book which i recently read "How to Win Friends & Influence People" by Dale Carnegie i just wrote about the first part in my previous post now the other section heading -Six ways to make people like you:

1)Become genuinely interested in other people: As the heading suggest itself if u really want to make people ur friend u get to be interested in them, know about them, their work, liking and in turn surely they will become your friend, 'you can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying other people interested in other people interested in you' . Just read these lines it would be more clear to u "it is the individual who is not interested in his fellowmen who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring". Actually its over human tendency we don't bother for others until other are bother about us, so unless u show some interest in them they wont be interested in you. Some more lines for u " If we want to make Friends, lets greet people with animation and enthusiasm. when somebody calls you on the telephone use the same psychology . Say hello in tones that bespeak how pleased you are to have the person call", so greet others , get interested in other if u want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendship and want help from them u in ur tough time.

2) Smile : yes you got it right ur big smile can win many friends for you we often tend to forget about this important tool by which can make make people in our favour, u can just make out how important smile by this line " the expression one wears on one's face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one's back. Its been even observed by survey that the people who wear a genuine, heartwarming smile tend to perform better not only in professional life but also in personal life, than those who lacks it, you must have a good time meeting people if u expect them to have a good meeting time with u. I feel if you welcome everybody with a smile sooner everything around u will be lively and u will never feel bored, people will also love to spend time with you. An ancient Chinese proverb says " a man without a smiling face must not open a shop" from this you can make out how important a smile is in the profession of people in public dealing.

3) Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language: You would have got the clue what i am going to right, it says that to any person the most important thing to him is his name people are always concerned about there name and if any body say there name in a wrong way they get annoyed you would understand if people pronounce your name in wrong way , you would try to correct them. so i just like to say try to call with there proper name, because every body likes to be called by his good name rather any other short term, so stop calling your friends with the titles u bully them because its somewhere or the other hurts them, and try to remember people' name because its always nice feeling when a person call you by your name specially when you don't know him fully. its very important point which we always forget or underestimate, so now onward always keep this point in mind while dealing with people.

4)Be a good listener, encourage other to talk about themselves: As the heading suggest we got to be good listener because people want some one to tell about their problems issues. In the world people have a lot to say about what happened with them or what they feel about a particular thing and they want to share that thing, many a time u might have come across people who keep on talking about themselves for hours and if you avidly listen them they will certainly like you. So if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested, ask question that other persons will enjoy answering, encourage them to talk about themselves ans their accomplishments, from professional point of view it is to success the more you listen ur customer the better for u to serve them.

5)Talk in term of the other person's interests: ya u got it right, talk about cricket the one who love to watch cricket not to one who like to see soccer, so as per the person talk to them and if area of interest differ between you and the other person better do some homework of knowing other persons area of interest, in this way you can leave a good impression on other person and the other person will also like you for that. It would be more clear from this " every one who was ever guest of Theodore Roosevelt was astonished at the range of his knowledge. Whether his visitor was a cowboy or a rough rider a politician Roosevelt knew what to say. and how was it done? the answer was simple, whenever Roosevelt expected a visitor he sat up late the night before reading up on the subject in which he knew his guest was particularly interested".

6) Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely: There is one all important law of human conduct. Iife we obey that law we shall almost never get into trouble, in fact the law if obeyed bring us countless friends, but if broken will get us into endless trouble, the law is " Always make the other person feel important ". you can make them feel important by truly appreciating the work of other person. this would be more clear from " The unvarnished truth is that almost all the people you meet feel themselves superior to you in some way and sure way to their heart is to let them realize in some subtle way that you recognize their importance and recognize it sincerely.

well that was some good thing i find in the book garnished by my on ideology.

icl t-20 cricket tournament is over and i enjoyed that, my fav. Hyderabad heroes won the tournament, now its the turn of much hyped ipl t-2o cricket let see how this series happen to be its certainly a long one from April till June but if it becomes a hit i am ascertain about the future of international cricket as player will love to play for leagues rather there own country because of money. with this i come to end of my post do comment about this post about those six point any thing u like to add to these six any thing you don't agree with OK.

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The Book Review................

hii there...

This time i am going to write the book review and summary of the book i am currently reading "How to Win Friends & Influence people" by Dale carnegie. i have been highly influence by the book, i will try my level best to tell a brief about the book, if even i failed to leave a mark please read the book if u really want to change your social life and want to be liked by every person you meet or know. The book is written in way back in 1936 and is bestseller and the thing told in the book are still aplicable in todays era. The book is broadly divided into four parts the first two i am going to discuss in this post and the rest in the next one.

The first part deals with the fundamental techniques in handling people. It could be further divided ito further three parts

(a) Don't criticize, condemn or complain, let me explain a bit about it in my way. When ever a person do wrong we tend to get angry on him and tend to cricize the person that you did this thing wrong u dont know any thing etc without bothering what the other person might be thinking, wait for the moment and think how we feel when some body criticizes us and how bad we feel about the person denouncing us,this would be more clear from "Crticism is futile (pointless) because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify him self. Criticism is dangerous ecause it wounds a person's precious pride hurts his sense of importance and arouses resentment." Even Mr. Lincoln says " don't critcize others; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances". when dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. we are dealing withe creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with pride and vanity. Bitter criticism caused the sensitive thomas hardy one of the finest novelist s ever to enrich english to give up forever writing fiction. Any fool can criticize condemn and most of us do. but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving. we all must try figure out why the person is doing wrong. At last "god himself doesnot prpose to judge man until the end of his days."

(b)honest and sencere appreciation. we human have a great hunger for appreciation and if any body fulfill this hunger by sincere appreciation we enjoy doing that work or in other term if you appreciates somones effort the other person will feel happy and there is a great chance that he will do your work even, but at this juncture i would just like to clear one thing i am talking about real or true appereciation not the false one or flattering ok make a deserving appreciation in right context. to make this clear suppose u work hard on a project and after completion your teacher dont appreciate your work you will feel a bit down and if your teacher appreciate you you will fell more excited and will think of doing something more great now; got it how true appreciation can help to get best out of a person. Think when we are in party the women are always conscious about there look and dress and if you sincerely appreciate them about there cloths they would be delighted. see how important is appreciation and how we neglect this in our day today life so stop cricizing start appreciating.

(c) Arouse in the other person an eager want : " the only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what and show them how to get it ". If you want your work to be done by others easily than arouse in the other person an eager want means that that how your work is also important for him. For example if your going for job interview relate your answers fulfilling there needs or demand if you can do so there is greater probability of being selected. Just talk all the time what the other person want and how he could get it. " If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own". a business leader said " people who can put themselves in the place of other people, who can undestand the working of their minds need never worry about what the future has in store for them." so i feel u got what i want to convey to you. the rest of the part i will write in my next post as it is getting a bit lengthy. One thing which i got from the book is every human is delicate and so we should treat every person in an important way.

About my personal life last week i was busy in my internal exam . march is over april ready to come with this the last days of college life are own, i will try to make most of every moment so that in the end i have no regrets.bye and take care

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Reality of Life continues.........

HII, last fortnight was good, college is fine, there was fest in my college "kolhaal" but i prefer to study at home rather attending it , last weekend i was out of the city at my maternal grand parents home and i had fun there with my cousins. and i am enjoying watching T20cricket of rebellious cricketer in ICL ..

just continuing from where i left in my last post, i discussed abut three points about life, now the fourth one, i wrote that the reason behind our sadness is the expectation now i am going to write about the other factor which also contribute to our sadness or the cause of our unhappiness, our possessive nature we today are very caring about our thing i mean we search our happiness in materialistic thing but these things are temporary and when they die there life gets our we tend to feel sad, i don't mean we should not take care of our thing but we should not get too attach with them resulting in addiction of the thing and when that thing goes away we cry, i feel you got my point.

fifth point which i am going to write is about the secret behind the success and according to me Planing is the single most important thing behind the success according to me, if we don't have any plan about our goal, we are hardly going to achieve it and the things done in haphazard way never result in good result, plan should be practical ,feasible and above all based on your weakness and strength. most of us most of the time fail to to make good plan, but as we get to know more about ourselves the planning becomes easy. At this juncture i would just like to tell you the famous saying of swami Chinmayananda " Plan your work and work out your plan".

sixth point, i feel success and failure both the thing don't occur over a night they occur gradually we don't realize, that every day small bit effort can lead you such a big success and no efforts to great disaster, what i actually mean is we mostly neglect these small contribution and efforts and on D - day they make the difference between winner and failure...
with this i want to end the serious talk

the festival of color is around the corner, yes i am talking about HOLI, the kids in my apartment are getting very naughty as the Holi-day is approaching and they are getting water filled balloon in their hand , they don't mind targeting any body and going out is now getting a bit scary. But i am not against their act as in my childhood i also used to do the same.
today while going through the newspaper i got a bit annoyed the reason being the excessive advertisement in it i was trawling for good article and in between the full page advertisement
eating away the quality of the newspaper. i feel they should make two section of news paper where there is only news and good article and in other adds and other things, but i know they cant do that. with this i conclude wishing all of you happy holi, enjoy the festival of color make sure not to hurt any one{i hope you know what i mean}.........